India has a unique and distinct culture which is renowned across the globe. An amalgamation of diverse languages,community, philosophy ,tradition, geography and beyond everything millions of people with infinite areas of interest .If you ask me, any culture should speak for the well-being and progress of human race. What if it stifles you instead? Then be a battler against all the odds to uphold your own beliefs and principles . If the norms written by someone are so strong to be carried over for ages then certainly you could also turn the tide , for anything you believe in so firmly.
One of those unwritten yet written rules is to get married before 30! Being grown up in a semi-liberal Kerala family our custom has been slightly different that is , you should get married either after graduation or once you get a job. In this facet of convention also, certain exceptions are there for girls due to which they have to give in or adhere to the indisputable social code.
I have been at gunpoint to get settled since the day I got my first job and the process of being deaf to all those grumblings still goes on even after I found the love of my life.
Apparently the astrologer who had told the correct turn of my life events from childhood is getting a stable income from the dearest women in my family since then , for further life changing advices particularly marriage.
If you are puzzled about your marriage choice let us talk through some thoughts which might help you in the arduous decision making process.
If you are ready at the age of 18 without any concerns over anything , you could get hitched undoubtedly and if you’re 40 and unmarried with some serious commitment issues then please give yourself a break from the act and thought ! Just enjoy the solitude , that’s your comfort zone!
Financial stability is always a trump card , fend for yourself first before you take the key decision of your life. It credits you with a bonus amount of security and maturity to handle any dramatic turn of events in life.
This may sound vague , but if you are resilient to the huge pressure from the family and society to get settled, then there is a good prospect that you might end up with the one whom you feel is the right companion for you as nobody understands you better than yourself.
My mother never fails to update any marriage in our family or in our locality in order to remind my spinster status in the best possible way.
Never submit yourself to peer pressure only because you can’t deal with it! Just wait for the hilarious moment when your friends share the real marital wisdom with you while you are still looking for the perfect filter for your photo!
The demands of the society are incessant. When you fulfil one, the next one will be served. It’s a recurring deal! Do what really matters to you!
If you are attached to a dream that demands your outright commitment then plan your future accordingly as marriage comes with an equal or more commitment . If you have the prowess to manage both efficiently then you are good to go !
If you have none of the above concerns to deal with and if it’s just the concept of marriage that you are stressed about then you should better go for some professional advice. They could easily help to pull you through the apprehension of this major life goal.
P.S: If you are already married before reading this blog , I hope that’s the best decision of your life. If not just work on the gaps , resolve the differences instantly and earn the good moments.